S- Six Sigma #BlogchatterA2Z #AtoZChallenge #AtoZ

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Stereotyping: People often stereotype others because it helps in information processing and memory. Someone we see proud, we categorize them as high-maintenance and we immediately know how to deal with them. We do not like to be stereotyped. When it comes to Television programs and advertisements, we’ve made an enormous progress – but it’s coming from a very low base. Women have been defined in very narrow roles. Women were firmly placed in the domestic sphere, talking vigorously about cleaning and housework. Women are also often shown as the family nurturer, which is something that men weren’t allowed to be either. This is a problem for both genders. At present, there are many advertisements that show men in a much more nurturing role. Some ads cast women to just fill in the background of the scenery. They don’t tend to be the leading role unless it’s for cleaning products. A man stands for humanity, but ads only show women if it’s something specifically to do with their gender, like beauty. This is an amazing video that features normal women. It is absolutely extraordinary because normally for any women to be featured in an advert she has to look like a goddess and have the best body in the entire world. But nobody has a body like that, only a tiny percentage of the population. Stereotypes create dangerous consequences that limit a person’s potential. Because of these stereotypes, men and women are forced to ignore their personality traits, temperament and unique characteristics that make them who they are. Instead, there is always a tendency to conform to the cultural notions of ‘masculinity’ and ‘femininity’. We lose our real self in this chaos. We do realize this but unsure how to get out of these boxes that seem to be so deeply embedded in us. Perhaps the best way we can bring a change in our society is by becoming aware of our own biases and stereotypes in the way we see ourselves and others. So wait for what? Let us break the shackles of cliché holding us back.

Snake and Ladders: This board game actually involves no skill. Why did we love that board game so much? The fate of our play in this game is governed by the shake of a dice. You go up when you land on a good square and you go down when you land on a bad square. As we play this game, interestingly, we experience the Plethora of Emotions. As we progress two or three ladders in a row, Over-confidence creeps in which then makes the next snake seem a bigger blow. We experience satisfaction and curious nearing the top, but as we hit the long snake about 4 squares from the end, we are irritated and claim that things are unfair. We sort of become cruel to see others descending the snake. That’s again a Ruthless competitiveness in this game. We fail to remember that this is a game and enjoy the feeling of schadenfreude (pleasure derived from another person’s misfortune) in the misfortune of others. What is exciting about the game that makes all of us, regardless of age keep coming back? The popularity of the game has certainly not faded over time. Overall, I think the game of Snakes and Ladders teaches us a lot about life. It teaches us to identify goals and keep our focus on it. It teaches us to be humble by not taking the ladders too seriously and never give up and keep going even when the Snake has gulped us down).we learn to accept the outcome in this game whether we win or lose. This game taught me that everything is temporary. But all in all, the biggest lesson that this game taught me is to enjoy life.

Sink or Sync: Don’t get too much attached with any thing in this world. It could be the relationship or material joys. We are going to leave this world exactly the way we entered. Learn to detach from attachments. That way you can save yourself from sinking deep. Sync but not Sink.

The Shifting Sands of Friendship: Friendships at midlife are a little like a smoke detector. We need them in theory, but they can be a nuisance to keep up, especially if we are juggling children, aging parents, and in-laws and a career. So, we let them run out of juice. We don’t really miss them until the house begins to burn and we wish we had a few firemen nearby. Friends serve us a lifeline and a new kind of shelter in the storm. Investing in friends, particularly at midlife, gives the mental balance and peace. Because the more friends we have, the healthier, happier and more mentally strong we are in the later years. We are wired for friends!

Self Care : Self Care does not mean Selfish. We must learn to say No when needed. We can be choosy to spend our precious time- be it, books, friends, entertainment, self care or family. It is Ok to put your foot down and say No more often. People with the least levels of purpose actually enjoy their midlife and feel young. Midlife is the best time to understand that we can stand in our own power and not live according to someone else’s idea of how we should live our lives.

Snippets of our Life: As we progress towards the midlife, we can share the Snippets of our Life Journey. It is exciting and fun to recall our 20s and 30s and share the joys of our Life experience at later 40s. Photographs, journals or diaries will help us embark the new transformation smoothly!

Relationships consist of telling your same life stories to different people until someone finally appreciates them – Kate Rockland

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Welcome to syncwithdeep! I am not a prolific blogger. My blog is 1 month old. I love memories and that was one of my reasons to come up with blogging. I don’t have a niche as I love to write about anything that appeals to me. This is my first year with #BlogchatterA2Z #ATOZChallenge and I have taken up the category woman themed at 40. In a couple of months, I am going to set my foot on the 40s, the descending hill. I am sharing my perspective how this transition is going to transform me in the nearing future. This is absolutely my Personal Experience. I would be glad if you spam me with your comments, whether you agree or disagree. That way, I can know how you welcome your 40s. Stay tuned with me every day to know how I am coping with my 40s.

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46 thoughts on “S- Six Sigma #BlogchatterA2Z #AtoZChallenge #AtoZ

  1. Great post with some very wise words. I especially connected with your comments on self care and the shifting sands of friendship. I have had to say goodbye to two long term fiends recently because they were no longer tenable for me.

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  2. Few people talk about schadenfreude. It seems to be almost taboo. But the germs of it reside in every one of us. It is important to recognize that and keep it in control.

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    1. Thank you Anagha. Glad you liked the post. True that when we step into midlife friends play an important part of the journey.. Good friends make the best of this journey leaving us pleasant memories.

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  3. You are full of wisdom and surprises, Deepa! When I read the title, Six Sigma, I was like is Deepa talking about quality control and corporate jargon!! I couldn’t be more wrong. I loved your example of snakes and ladders, it is so well explained. Come to think of it, I never saw it that way, it has always been a game, never tried to decipher my emotions playig it. But the next time I play it with my daughter, I am sure your words will come back to me!!

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  4. As women, we know what it’s like to be stereotyped. We’re sensitive. We’re sweet. We apologize for everything. We love to clean and cook. We like ice cream when we’re heartbroken and shopping on all occasions. While one of these stereotypes might be true ,the others are hit and offensive. And frankly, I am REALLY sick and tired of stereotypes that interfere with all of the progress I have made as a gender over the past few decades. They take away from our opportunities as females. They knick at my confidence. And they don’t serve any purpose other than to cut us/me down. There is a LOT of pressure for women to carry. Let us all stand together and fight off any detrimental stereotypes against us. We’re awesome, so let’s make sure everyone respects that.

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  5. “People often stereotype others because it helps in information processing and memory” ….I’ve known we categorize things for these reasons but I never thought of it in terms of stereotyping…That’s an interesting perspective (not that it makes stereotyping right). Thanks for giving me something to think about! 😉

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  6. Beautiful narration Deep. Lovely comparison of snakes and ladders with our lives. Introduction of schadenfreude with it was good enough. Overall, you provided an interesting insight into the world of stereotyping.

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    1. Thanks Rashmi.. Have you never felt the sarcasm while playing snakes and ladders? As a kid i always enjoyed sliding down the snakes rather than ladders. And I had fun when others do too.. It was kinda innocent days. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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