U-UNDO #BlogchatterA2Z #AtoZChallenge #AtoZ

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Have you ever thought of an UNDO command to fix a mistake?

Wouldn’t it be nice if there was an undo function in life? We could undo something we said, undo watching something we should not have watched. Too many times our human nature kicks in, and we go about blaming someone or something or even random circumstances for our mistake—when all along, we were responsible. It is so difficult to admit being or doing wrong.

How brilliant it would be if we could use the undo button to, undo, other things we do because fearlessness is often the lesser part of caution. Let us take the example of Tattoos. Say, we tattoo our lover’s name on our forearm, which is great when we are in love because love is blind. But then when we break up and have to explain to a later lover or spouse that ‘I am the ex of ….’. If we can pull that off, we don’t need an undo button.

One day out of boredom, I was playing on my handheld Solitaire game. I had moved a card wrongly that I was stuck and unable to make another move. I quickly decided to use the “UNDO” button and took back my previous play. That allowed me the opportunity to put my card in a different column, thus making it easy for me to win the game. This led me to think weirdly, what if , Life had an “UNDO” button when we realize we’ve made a mistake? At first, I thought if  would I use it more often? And then when I started thinking about all the times I might have to use such a button, I got carried away. I was marking mistake after mistake in my head and had to do a virtual slap on my forehead to stop. After 18 years I have discovered that the secret to success is mastering failure. Most of us would not agree with this statement, because we have been trained to think “failure” is the worst thing that can happen to us when in reality. I was always told, failure is the worst thing that could happen in anybody’s life. But I did not commit the mistake with my son. I wanted him to fail, learn from his mistakes and understand that failure is the ladder to success. What we learn from our failures prepares us to secure our success. It gives us the wisdom to perfect, preserve, and protect.

What happens if we don’t learn from our mistakes? When we encounter hard times, we are ill-prepared to handle it. Simple to say, Life comes with bumps in the road for everyone. Whether it’s a small bump or a large bump sometimes it is up to us. If we’re not equipped with the ability to understand which is which, we may turn small bumps into large ones, or small mistakes into big mistakes. Lucky for us, there are times when we have a choice we can do a gut-check on the choice we just made about something and if it’s not too late – we can hit the UNDO button and go back to where we were – and then head towards a positive direction. An example of that might be apologizing for something we said or did and getting back on the right track. But if it’s too late to hit the UNDO button, then we head down the path we chose, praying we learn whatever the path has to teach us.

Looking back at some of my decisions I’ve made in my life I can see there were times I actually could have hit the UNDO button to follow my passion, but I did not. Life had some better options for me. If I had hit the UNDO button when I was undecided between marriage and Job, I clicked SAVE to my decision so that I will not have a chance to UNDO. If I had clicked UNDO button when I was undecided between career or home, I would have enjoyed my job. I may have struggled to parent my son juggling work and family. I would have been flying high in the skies if I did UNDO, but because I did not, I feel I’m emotionally stronger and hopefully a better decision maker as a result. I would not call this a Sacrifice because I don’t believe in that. It is just a compromise for the betterment of my family.

There can be so many reasons we are where we are at this moment in time. Some we understand now, some we may not understand for months or years to come. Either way, when life gives us choices, let us make the best decision we can. The next time you wish you had an UNDO button for something you did, remember that you can choose to learn from it and make a positive outcome or let one bad choice lead to another. It’s your call.

Recently I bumped into my old school friend after 23 years. I could not make out as she was different completely. Regaining myself from the shock, I asked her a dumb question, ‘Hey, what happened to the boy with yellow teeth and spiky hair like the hedgehog, who was eyeing on you during our long bus journey to home?’ To her credit, my friend remained cool as she replied, ‘The spiky yellow fellow became my hubby.’ Ah! for an UNDO button!  🙂 🙂

For a Perfect Utopia, do not UNDO!

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Welcome to syncwithdeep! I am not a prolific blogger. My blog is 1 month old. I love memories and that was one of my reasons to come up with blogging. I don’t have a niche as I love to write about anything that appeals to me. This is my first year with #BlogchatterA2Z #ATOZChallenge and I have taken up the category woman themed at 40. In a couple of months, I am going to set my foot on the 40s, the descending hill. I am sharing my perspective how this transition is going to transform me in the nearing future. This is absolutely my Personal Experience. I would be glad if you spam me with your comments, whether you agree or disagree. That way, I can know how you welcome your 40s. Stay tuned with me every day to know how I am coping with my 40s.

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52 thoughts on “U-UNDO #BlogchatterA2Z #AtoZChallenge #AtoZ

  1. As I read the title my thoughts are exactly the same as you described in the post. Life teaches us at every stage, every moment. It is on us that we learn or not. In life and in life’s tests either we win or we learn. We never lose.
    Yes, there are moments in everyone’s life that they want to undo. I also have some. But then I think, it is only better that there is no such function. Because if there was an undo button we would never be able to live our life to the fullest. We would have spent the whole time undoing and fixing.

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  2. Undo button is an easy way out. It will never make us own our mistakes and learn from them. It is wishful thinking that undo will fix things.

    On a side note: how embarrassing for you when you put your foot in the mouth! LOL

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    1. True, although my friend was casual about the question as we used to call the boy by the same name, it was an unexpected moment for me. I felt emabarassed of myself to have asked her after 23years. Thank god she did not take it offensive. That’s when i decided to be thrifty on using words.

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  3. That would be a great option to have the ‘undo’ button. Once you have made the mistake, you have obviously learnt from it. But I would still use the undo button to know what would have happened if I hadn’t made that mistake. What course would my life have taken if I hadn’t taken a certain action. Nice post to make us reflect, Deepa! I am already making a list of things I would undo if given a chance. 😉 🙂

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  4. Trust me Deepa, I used to think about it every time in college days and before daughter was born. But later realized if we had this ‘undo’ button or time-machine, I might not be what I am today.
    We all have our share of mistakes and learn from those mistakes, mature in a better way. Lovely thoughtful post.

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    1. Almost each of us would have wanted to hit this undo button in life at difficult times. But if we had hit then we would never been able to accept failures which is again a ladder to success. Thanks a log for sharing your thoughts. I am glad you liked this.

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  5. “Undo” button for life and its trials! Wow, what a thought. But then we would undo the learning of the mistakes too, wont we?
    Though we can not undo things that had happened, repentance can cleanse the soul and prepare us / equip us to make the future bright.
    A very thoughtful, well worded and thought provocative post Deep!

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  6. I don’t think I need a undo button bcoz mostly I don’t have any regrets in life and any that I may want to undo. So i guess life taught me quite some lessons and if I did make mistakes I knew I should not repeat it

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    1. Well thats great.. Except for a for a few who are scared to face the reality, most would not like to have an undo as we will never be able to learn from the mistakes if there was an undo. My last paragraph states that. Thx for sharing your thoughts.

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  7. Somehow, my comments in the morning, didn’t get published. I would love a rewind button for so many decisions and dumb things i have done. Wish the universe was giving out super powers today – I know what to ask for 😀
    On a serious note though, I believe in the Buddhist philosophy of being in the moment 🙂

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  8. You have read my mind! Ive always wanted a rewind button to change my decisions in life. Wish the universe was giving out super powers today – I know what to ask for 😀

    On a serious note though, I’m trying to follow the Buddhist principle of being in the moment. And not dwelling on the past 🙂

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    1. Thank you shirley for dropping by. are u sure u would like an undo in your life? Profession demands u an UNDO but emotionally an UnDO will never allow you to grow further becuase u are saturated the monet you find your way. But I respect your opinion. Your experience says it all. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts.

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      1. One skills i learned from you in this short journey.. You take the time to read, and engage the writer with your thoughts, not which many do.. I really appreciate and pls do continue this. Never give up on engaging.

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      2. That might be one of the best compliments I’ve received! It’s honestly important to me to connect with people. I suppose it’s actually an introvert quality I’ve kind of hacked….I thoroughly enjoy close relationships and real connections with people. I am grateful you are here with me!!!

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  9. Like you Deepa, I too have given up my decade long career in Sweden, to take care of my son though I never felt the need of hitting the undo button, but yes sometimes everyone wishes one could. Like the one towards the end of your post 🙂

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    1. That’s another great side of your story I am getting to know. to gain something its ok to lose something and definitely we are not regretting what we lost as in our case. Lovely thoughts roma. Thanks for dropping by. do drop in to share your thoughts for the remaining letters too.

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  10. We all want to erase our mistakes and the UNDO button would just be perfect for it. But, what if UNDOing leads to a change I dont want, then what would I UNDO? It’s a never ending chain, better to stop worrying about UNDO and just move on.

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